Pat:
If your bullet is plain based, then the recommendations from Lee's 2nd edition Modern Reloading will make a good recommendation based on Ballistic pressure of your load in psi . Their chart will tell you what BHN will put your load in their defined sweet spot for your working load pressure.
Sometimes it is difficult to locate info on your load pressure in psi but my conversion formula is within practical limit for this function if you can locate CUP for your load and convert it to psi, the results will be within 3000 units.
ANSI CUP to ANSI psi:
(CUP X 1.515586) - 17902 = psi within 3000 units
Lee equates alloy ultimate strength of your alloy in psi minus their sweet factor to the ballistic pressure of your load in psi to keep your alloy in the range a plain base alloy bullet will obturate reliably at your load pressure by recommending an alloy BHN for your load pressure.
If you know the approximate pressure of your load in psi, and don't have the book, post your pressure and I will look up the recommended alloy BHN for you. That info will also be in the chart with the Lee Hardness test kit if you have that. The Lee site also has available the instructions for their hardness test kit and you could find the chart there for working load pressure to alloy BHN recommendation there too.
Of course, if your bullet is gas checked, that will extend the load pressure range for your alloy to an amount to be determined by you. Lee's data is only suitable for plain based bullets and gas checks extend that range considerably.
Gary